The Meaning Of Manifesting
Does this sound scary to you, or complicated – or too good to be true? Or does it sound like an empowering concept. The truth is, life is a co-creation. It is created in equal measures by the universe/source/God and our own mind.
But right now, more often than not we’re leaving this creation completely up to chance. We don’t ask the universe for anything specific nor do we use our mind to create what we want.
In truth, we don’t even know what we want.
Not true, you say? You know what you want – money, success, true love?
But what do you mean?
- If you find a lost coin on the street then that’s money.
- If you make a suggestion and you boss likes it that is success.
- If your dog loves you that is true love.
How Do I Start Manifesting
Next, ask yourself what you want to do with the money.
Start with one specific thing.
You can always add more later, there are no limits. But for now, let’s start with one thing.
For example, you may want to pay off your debt. This could be paying off a loan, all your credit cards, the cash family and friends lent you, your overdraft or your mortgage.
Or you may want to enough money to send your kids to college, or to take a trip around the world, or to buy a new home. Whatever it is, have a clear use for the money in mind.
Don’t worry about how your wishes will manifest in your life. It doesn’t matter if you have no idea how this money will come to you, or how any of what you wish to manifest will happen.
Don’t HOW your way through life.
We are tinier than a grain of sand compared to the size and power of the universe. The universe knows no limits.
Life is a co-creation and the “how” is the universe’s part. Let it surprise you!
Watch for initial signs.
The universe often tries out different ways of working with you, looking at what you’re receptive to. For example, you may come across an offer “out of nowhere” to pay off some of your debt interest free over a longer period.
If you find the process is genuinely free and the application is very straightforward this is probably a sign.
And what makes you feel these things?
Come up with at least one concrete thing for each way you want to feel.
If you want to feel safe, is that with someone who is physically big and strong or someone who earns a lot of money?
Or perhaps someone who is loyal and trustworthy?
When you get presents, compliments and love letters, or
When there is dinner on the table when you come home at night or when your partner gets a second job to bring home more money?
In general, we all receive and give love in one (or more) of these ways:
- Through words
- Acts of service
- Quality time
Be clear on your own love language, how you give and show that you love. And get clear on how you want to receive love.
- asking for something specific
- visualizing what you want
- feeling how you want to feel.
Then state your request. This can be done in your thoughts or out loud, but use actual words and sentences even if you’re just thinking them. Like so:
Here is an example of what you could say:
Now that you’re clear about your dream and have sent the message to the Universe, surrender.
Release your wish to the Universe and trust in the process.
It’s not your job to know how this dream will manifest. This is the part for the universe to do. Know that life happens for you not to you and the Universe is working in your favor!
Two pitfalls to avoid
1: Never ask for what you don’t want. Ask in the positive and avoid words like no, not, don’t, never etc.
For example, don’t say, I want a guy who would never hurt me. Instead say, I want a guy who treasures me and respects my feelings.
So instead of just the generic words abundant and wealthy, say what this means to you specifically.
E.g. I want to feel abundant and wealthy with savings that are always above X [specific amount] in my bank account. While you say it immerse yourself in the feeling of abundance that this amounts gives you.
2. Don’t feel guilty for asking, or unworthy of receiving.
The universe is helping us all the time. It would rather give us what we want than guess. It wants to work with us.
You are not a burden nor are you asking for too much.
And you are not taking anyone else’ share. There is enough for everyone.
The universe has created planets made entirely of gold and others where it rains diamonds (yes, really). That’s the level of abundance the universe creates. Whatever you’re asking is fine. You’re allowed.
Ways to make it easier: how to keep the momentum going in everyday life
Is Manifesting A Real Thing?
There is no absolute, objective world “out there”. Everything is relative, everything we perceive goes through the filter of our own mind.
There is no such thing as a good movie or the perfect pair of jeans or a terrible meal as such – we all have such different perceptions of good and bad.
Even things that you might think would scare everyone and be perceived as “universally bad” such as losing your job isn’t met with the same reaction by everyone.
We all know people who were glad to get redundancy money and finally start their own business, or cut the commute and look for a job closer to home, or go into early retirement.
Others throw in the towel.
Some people are always optimistic, others always complain. We think we have no choice, that is “just the way we are” or worse, that’s just the way the world is.
But then, why doesn’t everyone have the same reaction as we do? The truth is, we make choices and with that we create how the world looks to us. We create our own reality.
Work on your money mindset
Examine your own beliefs. We all hold strong beliefs in our subconscious that we act on, without questioning or examining them.
Often when we unearth them they can’t withstand logical analysis, they seem “silly” in the light of day. Which is another reason why we don’t dig them out to question them – but we still act on them, subconsciously!
How does that feel?
What are the thoughts that accompany being given a million dollars?
Work on your love mindset
Now try out different scenarios – make the person in your mind’s eye incredibly handsome or beautiful.
Do you feel the luckiest person alive?
Or do you feel uncomfortable, ugly even or unsure what they want with “someone like you”? Or do you feel suspicious that they won’t stay long term, or that you will have so many “competitors”?
Are you a worrier?
Why Manifesting Doesn’t Work Sometimes
Sometimes we’re not specific enough. Sometimes we sabotage ourselves with our underlying beliefs in negative consequences (see above) if what we want would actually come true. And sometimes it just take the universe more time to deliver.
I have been single for quite a while – and I actually like it.
But I recently realized that I needed to be in a relationship to tackle some issues in my own mindset that were holding me back.
I was becoming too focused on myself and needed to practice committing to another person, being there for someone else. I also needed things to be shaken up in my routine and not only live according to my own rules.
What I had really wanted was a romantic relationship!
But I had forgotten to mention this detail in my request to the universe… So that didn’t manifest.
What manifested was an awesome fun roommate who was very lively and energetic and often needed me to be there for her. The exact thing I had asked for.
Now over to you! Have you managed to manifest what you want? Or did you manifest something you didn’t actually want in that way? I respond to every comment.